Lust is easy.... love is hard.... like is most important ~ Carl Reiner
~tips4chix dating tips~
1. You are dating, they are not asking you to marry them. Don't be desperate!
2. Dress with class and touch of sexy. You want him to be proud to be seen with you.
3. BUY A FULL LENGTH MIRROR!!! Do a full body bugger check from the top of your head to the crusty heels. Check it out back and front, side to side and maybe even have someone take some photos of you. It might be time to start walking everyday!
4. Do not touch your wallet when the check comes. Let the man court you. If a relationship begins, a new set of rules begin to apply.
5. Be a doe in the field, not a deer in the parking lot! Go on about your business and be that beautiful doe and allow the hunter to scope you out. Don't be one of the many deers that gather in the parking lots just waiting in line to be chosen.
Set yourself apart.
6. Make sure you have an updated wardrobe. Purge the outdated items! A few basics can do wonders.
7. Remember its "guilty by association" so be careful of where you tend to gather. You may get a reputation that preceds you and is not all that flattering.
8. Like the old saying goes, the meaning of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Like a famous Doctor once said, "How's it workin for ya?". Take a look at your routine and shake it up!
9. Be honest about what you can attract. Don't expect a George Clooney or Brad Pitt if you are not an Angelina Jolie. Besides, you want someone that you adores you, not the mirror!
10. If you are going to drink alcohol, drink at least one glass of water in between each alcoholic beverage and stop drinking one hour before going home. Best decisions are made with a clear mind.
11. Don't overlook the man JUST to have the relationship or the ring!
12. No matter what they tell you, men are visual. All men. This is where that full length mirror comes in handy. Take a look at what they are looking at. If you see "lady lumps", trust me, they see them.
13. Do not, I repeat, do not lay your lady luggage on the table during dinner. If you need to lean forward, do not wear a plunging neckline and sit at a booth,instead sit at a table where you can scoot your chair back a little.
14. I think this goes without saying but, a man will take whatever he can get so you need to always leave him wanting for more.
15. Refer to my fashion page for tips on new hairstyles, latest must haves and dressing for your body style.
~tips4chix marriage tips~
1. The faster you forgive, the more fun you have.
2. Even if you can't admit you were wrong, don't keep saying you were right.
3. If you know you have hurt your spouse, apologize.
4. If you go to bed angry, at least try to get over it by the time you make coffee the next morning.
5. Don't expect your spouse to be perfect. If you would like them to change something, think about how you say it. It's all in the presentation.
6. You find happiness within yourself, not within your spouse.
7. Be kind to your spouse. You liked them when you met them.
8. Take the words, "you should" and "you need" out of your vocabulary and replace them with "would you" or "may I suggest".
9. Ask yourself, "Am I easy to live with"? If not, then may I suggest you work on that?
10. Learn to laugh at yourself and admit your faults.
11. More than anything, a woman wants to feel safe. More than anything, a man wants to feel appreciated.
12. The greatest thing about being married is that your spouse knows you so well. The hardest thing about being married is that your spouse knows you so well.
13. Fight fair. This one hard because we all like to win but as you grow together you find that it just hurts yourself when your hurt your spouse.
14. Compromise. I think this word is sufficient all by itself. A lot of people are single today because they can't and won't compromise.
Compliment your man, you will be shocked and surprised at the results. I promise you that you will have them eating out of your hands! As women today, we feel that we give away power when we are so tired and feel we do more than our share so the last thing we want to do is compliment our spouse but just try it. He'll like it!
Family & Friendships
Just exactly what does that mean to you?
It means something different to everyone, so here are a few thoughts about friendship:
* In order to be a true friend you must think about someone other than yourself.
* Friends want what is best for each other, show sympathy, honesty, offer advice, support, and listen to the other person.
*Friendships tend to sometimes be even more deep than family.
* Friends are people that we entrust our secrets with and they keep them.
* Friends would not survive without trust.
* Friends provide us with advice when we are in confusion.
* When we are at fault, friends will correct us timely and never hide their true feelings.
* It's always hard knowing whether being brutally honest is the right thing to do. Do we tell them about their hairy toes or unibrow? Ask yourself, "is it worth loosing the friendship?" and "do they really want to know what you think?".
As the old saying goes, blood is thicker than water. With family a couple of "f" words come to mind, forgiveness and faith. But all too often we are so quick to take for granted those that we love.
Sisters, Mothers & Daughters, Mothers & Sons, Fathers & Daughters, the dynamics of all the different relationships can be very complicated and draining at times.
Sometimes, we need a break from family as we get older and we have to give ourselves a pass. I am reminded of the movie where Meg Ryan plays the sister that always seems to be the one that gets everything dumped in her lap when it comes to her Dad's problems whether it is his physical or mental health issues and her two sisters aren't any help yet they fly in at the last minute and cause more problems than help and she has to "Unplug" from all of them in order fill herself back up.
~Balance is always the challenge ~
....in any relationship.
Setting boundaries for yourself with your spouse, children, Mom, Dad, siblings, extended family and even work is a daily and ongoing challenge. As women, we tend to put ourselves last when it comes to nurturing the most important person in our lives. So remember to take care of yourself first because you will not be able to take care of anyone else if you don't.
Take 20 to 30 minutes a day FOR YOU!
How, you ask? Sneak it in somewhere during your day. Set the alarm 20 minutes early, after everyone goes to bed, on the way home from work, plan ahead, save up.
You have to make it happen. Don't feel guilty!
Guilt is for when you do something wrong. Shame is what others try to make you feel.
I'm always reminded of the instructions from the flight attendants: Place the mask on yourself and then assist those around you. If you've passed out from lack of air, what good are you to those that are depending on you?